A few more Very Important Rules, for general usage:
- Respect other people’s bodies.
- Yes, everyone’s.
- That means no touching without consent.
- Yes, not even their cool hair.
- That means no asking bizarre personal questions (or personal statements!)
Special note: Think about this in terms of meeting folks with
- bodies that don’t work the same way yours does
- bodies that aren’t the same gender as yours
- bodies that aren’t the same gender they were assigned at birth
- bodies that are pregnant
- bodies that aren’t pregnant, that you somehow think SHOULD be
- bodies that aren’t the same color as yours
- bodies that aren’t the same shape as yours
- bodies that aren’t the same size or weight as yours (that counts for bodies of lesser weight and bodies of greater weight).
Just, listen. The trick you’re missing is that the person in front of you, or that you’re about to speak to online, is another actual human just like you. There is, in fact, nothing that’s MORE like you in the entire universe, than the person you’re about to speak to.
You wouldn’t tell [well known person of authority] to their face that they’re weird, or too fat, or doing life wrong. You wouldn’t ask [other, similar person] about their genitals, their reproduction, or the manner in which they do personal bodily functions.
Have good morals when you speak and act. Apply those morals to everyone.
And get over the idea that “different” is really all that different.